The singer Lana Del Rey was recently under fire because she posted how critics shit on her for singing about bad relationships with terrible men, and saying that she's setting back feminism for decades. She caught flack because she pointed out a double standard of other female singers not getting shat on for singing about similar (or worse) topics.Who is this in reference to? I would need more context than this.
Relationships are not perfect, but if 'the relationship is not perfect' means 'he emotionally abuses me and I manipulate him', then that's abuse and not something to glorify. Some songs do pull off talking about imperfect relationships in a way that shows it's not abusive, just two imperfect people loving each other, or it shows that sometimes couples fight ('Still the One' by Orleans talks about 'sometimes I never want to see you again', but also talks about how she's still the one he wants to be with, for example). Then there are songs that act like it's totally fine to glorify an abusive/massively dysfunctional relationship (like G-Eazy and Halsey's 'Him and I').
I can totally see Tess being completely fine with the latter group but pretending like it's the former group to manipulate.
Since most of these mentioned women were black (except Ariana Grande and Camila Cabello), people are now accusing her of throwing black women under the bus, when it's more of a case of her mentioning women on Top 40 radio who dress more scantily and sing about cheating and drug dealing, People are always looking for more idols to tear down for entertainment.